Reinvent yourself in 90 days with this proven roadmap
4 things you must do to actually realize your destiny
2025 is right around the corner, and you have time right now to reinvent yourself and create your best year ever.
But you need to understand the process of reinventing yourself. There are important pieces nobody talks about that will get you amazing results in just 90 days.
I’m going to share with you the process I used that took me from hating my job and feeling stuck and frustrated in life to finding my purpose, creating a fulfilling career around my passion, and feeling empowered and confident.
If that sounds like where you want to be next year at this time, then keep reading.
Before we get started, if you’re new here, my name is Suzanne, and I’m a spiritual life coach who helps ambitious women find their purpose and make it their career.
First, I want to assure you that you can reinvent yourself and find your purpose.
No matter what’s happened in the past, or what’s happening right now, you have a destiny, a purpose and a calling.
You were born for a reason, and at any moment in time, any time you decide to, you can tap into your heart, redirect your life, and become the happiest, healthiest, most fulfilled and successful version of yourself.
My job is to guide you along that path, to help you find your purpose, create a business or career around it, get paid for your truest gifts, and become the person you’re meant to be.
The first step to reinvent yourself is radical acceptance.
That doesn’t mean accept your situation and bare minimum standards for yourself. No — I’m here to help you find your purpose and live your wildest dreams.
But, like the psychologist Carl Rogers said:
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
When you focus on how you wish things were different, or how you were different, you squander the ability to transform your life. You become blind to all the opportunities right in front of you.
And when you’re spending your time judging yourself, you don’t have any time or energy left to appreciate all you are, all you have, and all you’re here to give. Instead, you’re at war with yourself.
This leaves you feeling stuck and discouraged instead of empowered and ready to make a change.
I understand: You might wish certain past events hadn’t happened, or that you had opportunities or resources not currently available to you, or even wish that you were different in some way.
But that’s based on a deep sense of shame and blame, both toward yourself and others, and that mindset is what’s keeping you stuck, not any external situation.
That mindset is based on thinking you’re not good enough, that you don’t have the power to create what you want, or that life is stacked against you in some way.
Becoming the best version of yourself is about loving and appreciating all that you are, all that you have, and all that you have the potential to be.
When I work with clients to help them find their purpose and make it their career, we spend a lot of time shifting that mindset. I help clients heal core emotional wounds, overcome limiting beliefs and realize their value and worth.
This creates conditions for rapid transformation.
When I was trying to find the work I was meant to do, I was living in a place I didn’t like and there weren’t any jobs nearby in my field, so I ended up taking a toxic marketing job that I absolutely hated.
I felt lost and stuck and worried I’d messed my entire life up.
But by accepting my situation, trusting that everything was happening for the highest good, and committing to the inner work I’m going to share with you, I was able to reinvent myself and find my purpose.
Looking back, I’m grateful for that painful chapter because it set me up for my life’s greatest blessings.
The second step to reinvent yourself is to get crystal clear on the ideal version of your life — as it is right now.
While a one-day vision matters, a lot of people never come close to expressing their fullest potential because they don’t know how to bridge the gap between where they are and where they’re meant to be.
When your dream life feels far away, and your goals loom over you like Mt. Everest, your vision feels impossible, leaving you unmotivated to make any change.
This is exactly why so many people remain stuck year after year, for potentially their entire lives. And that’s what I want you to focus on and change.
If you really want to reinvent yourself, find your purpose and get paid for your truest gifts, you need to work with the raw material of what’s in front of you and use it to the best of your ability. As you do, your resources, self-confidence and enthusiasm will expand.
And that’s the key word — expansion.
The best way to reinvent yourself is to expand so fully into your existing chapter of life that you can’t help but break through into the next.
Every time I do that, magic happens. Things that previously seemed stuck or rigid shape-shift overnight, and new opportunities appear where before there were only walls.
So ask yourself: If you totally accepted your life and created the best possible version of it exactly as it is, what would that look like? What feels fun and exciting to add to your life right now?
That’s how you follow your purpose.
Maybe you have a business you’ve been waiting for better conditions to start. Begin it now. You’re resourceful. You can figure it out.
Maybe you want to start meditating or working out or making sourdough. Maybe you want to make your home as beautiful as it can possibly be.
Fully embrace where you are, find pockets of joy and expansion, and your entire life will change in the most beautiful, unexpected ways.
This is the work I help my clients do 1:1. Only 1 spot left!
The third step to reinvent yourself is to change your mindset and shift your identity.
A lot of times people wait for the external to change so they can feel happy and confident. You think if you find the work you’re meant for, achieve a big goal or make more money, then you’ll believe in yourself.
But the deeper spiritual, energetic truth is that you discover your purpose, achieve your biggest goals and create financial abundance by first changing how you see yourself, and how you feel.
Like author Maxwell Maltz said:
“You act, and feel, not according to what things are really like, but according to the image your mind holds of what they are like.”
If you see yourself as someone who’s stuck, who can’t commit to her goals, who will one day start the passion project you dream of, you will continue to be stuck in an endless loop of waiting and dreaming or stopping and starting, never making progress.
Instead, you need to see yourself as someone who wins. As someone who’s bold, courageous and committed. As someone who achieves everything she puts her mind to. And you need a powerful mindset to match.
Sometimes that requires deeper inner healing to release past pains, and you can watch this video on shadow work to learn more about that.
If you feel powerless, focus on the tiniest things to remind yourself of your impact.
Notice how you can lift a pen off a table just by deciding and then taking the action. It sounds small, but when you feel overwhelmed or powerless, narrowing your focus can help to remind you of who you are at the core.
You are powerful. You can change your life. You have a destiny carved into your soul that you’re meant to realize, and you’ll realize that destiny once you change your mindset to align with your true value and worth.
That brings us to…
The fourth step to reinvent yourself is to choose one small, specific change you want to make and commit to it for 30 to 90 days.
One of the major reasons people fail to reinvent themselves is because they try to do too much at once.
Changing your habits is hard. It takes a long time. You have to dig deep.
That’s why it’s easier to create lasting change when working with a coach like me who holds the vision for who you’re becoming rather than focusing on who you’ve been.
Making small changes might not seem fancy or exciting, but it works because we all only have so much discipline.
If you aim for too many life changes at once, you dilute your discipline and focus, making it harder to succeed.
But once it becomes a habit, you have momentum. Focus on building one habit after another.
So choose one change, make it as small as necessary, and stick to it for 30 to 90 days.
Maybe every time you think something bad about yourself, you shift that and remind yourself how awesome you are.
Or maybe instead of watching Netflix at night, take 30 minutes and work on the passion project you can’t stop thinking about.
Do it 30 to 90 days and see what happens.
But there’s still one more important missing piece of reinventing yourself and that is creating an authentic life that reflects your deeper core values.
Read this post about how to find those core values so you can reinvent yourself and finally find your purpose.
Guided inner work to reinvent yourself in 90 days
The intention of this week’s guided inner work is to help you connect more deeply to your value, worth and personal power.
Allow this work to be your sacred weekly spiritual upgrade session, the time you spend that plugs you into your intuition and larger vision, and that catapults you into an entirely new experience of life.