Why you’re actually stuck (and how to decide you deserve more)

Low expectations are from the devil

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If you feel stuck or blocked from your goals as a high-achieving, sensitive woman, it’s because you have a high threshold for suffering and pain.

Breakthroughs happen when you stop pushing through, struggling like it’s a virtue, simply because you’re used to it.

Pushing through isn’t actually effort. It’s fear and resistance because deep down you don’t feel good enough to breakthrough.

And that’s why you feel stuck.

Breaking free requires you to release attachment to being stuck, which is subconsciously making you feel safe.

When you know deep in your body what you deserve…

And feel the fear underneath the feeling of being stuck or blocked…

Everything changes.

Most normal people will tell you to simply lower your expectations.

Or caution that following your dreams isn’t a good idea because it stresses you out…

For women like us with a big calling on our hearts, listening to that kind of advice will destroy our potential.

This is a massive growth opportunity. A necessary one if you want to rise to the level of your dreams rather than fall to the level of your conditioning.

Your most powerful move right now is using the skill of tolerating discomfort to lean into the pain of growth…

rather than endure circumstances that don’t reflect the life you truly desire, and deeply deserve.

How to pursue big goals from a place of deciding you deserve more, rather than pushing, proving and stressing.

I’ve been on both sides of this equation, pursuing goals from a state of inner calm and peace, connecting in with God, taking the actions I feel inspired to, sharing from my soul, and aiming for more from a place of devotion to my mission.

I’ve also chased goals from a place of feeling not good enough, comparison, wondering why I’m not ‘there yet,’ and trying to fill a bottomless pit of need for approval, validation and love.

This morning during journaling and meditation, I realized that sometimes I don’t allow myself to be at peace and happy because at some points in my past, I received attention only when I was suffering.

When life got good, I associated that with experiences of cruelty, and so I sometimes subconsciously choose struggle, or feel afraid when things feel too calm and peaceful.

This is a great example of an upper limit, the idea that we all have energetic maximums of happiness, peace, money, success, health and fulfillment we’re willing to experience.

(We also have energetic minimums, which you can raise.)

When we hit against those upper limits, we freak out and sabotage.

That’s why you:

• Worry when things get really good instead of simply enjoy it.

• Plateau after a big growth spurt, because you panic and worry whether you’re worthy, can keep it going, or will lose it instead of resting in the knowing this is meant for you. Thank you, more please.

• Find yourself getting out of the consistent habits that created your success in the first place, because you subconsciously want to revert back to a feeling of safety rather than expand into continued growth.

Part of this process is about normalizing new levels of happiness, joy and peace in our bodies, and expanding the nervous system capacity to hold it.

How to increase your standards, elevate your expectation, and expand into a new level of health, wealth and success

When you push against your limits, a tension builds. You must learn how to reshape your relationship with this tension if you want to create the business and life you want.

When you consciously hold tension without falling back into old stories or patterns, you strengthen your energy field / nervous system, preparing it to hold more wealth and success.

Here’s how:

1. Spend time in stillness.

Your soul-aligned life flows naturally from a place of being connected deep within. Yes, mindset matters, and there is an element of simply deciding, which we’ll talk about in a minute…

But in order to allow yourself to receive more, and dissolve upper limits, you must dissolve the emotional tension keeping you stuck, attached to suffering, and enmeshed in experiences that perpetuate it.

Stillness heals your energy body. Some people talk about that in terms of your nervous system, but I see that as a physical manifestation of your energy body.

Your energy body carries tension and unprocessed, dense emotional energy that ties you to vibrationally dense, heavy experiences.

This is why I found my purpose after doing a 40-day yoga practice that became my most popular and legendary course, The Big Shift.

During the 40 days, I also read The Power of Now, meditated a lot and did deep inner work around accepting myself and my life.

This process works so powerfully because it purifies your emotional body. When all the dense energy has been processed through sitting with it, you’re able to hear your intuition and move the way your soul directs you to move.

It was SO powerful the effects lasted for years…

But over time, I got sloppy.

I stopped using my Feeling Awareness meditation technique daily.

Stress, resistance and fear slowly accumulated, leaving me to pursue my purpose from my own strength, rather than leaning in God.

Following God is what led me to make $5,000 on my very first course launch, with a small following.

Following God is what allowed me to sell out my 1:1 self-discovery coaching multiple times.

Following God is what allowed me to heal chronic fatigue and burnout, going from laying on the couch for literal years, to rebuilding my health and creating a healthier relationship with work and my career goals.

Meanwhile relying on my own strength is what resulted in feeling lost, comparing myself to other people, and going through times where it felt like despite all my hard work, the momentum was dwindling, not building.

I share that because the most beautiful thing about life is the infinite chances to begin again.

Nothing is final. At any moment, you can choose again, process your pain, surrender control, connect deep within, and take action from that place.

That’s the emotional part.

The mindset piece is…

2. Decide you’re done suffering, and elevate your expectation that you deserve more.

You can do all the emotional healing in the world, but if you haven’t decided that you’re done, you’ll continue creating / responding to situations in certain ways because your mindset hasn’t changed.

You’ll continue negotiating with the negative voices in your head rather than declaring them lies.

You’ll continue to tolerate stress, doubt, worries whether you’re good enough, and stay stuck behind problems rather than use them to learn how to think differently, and get different results.

You don’t have time to waste debating doubt.

You have gifts to give, lives to change, money to make and fun to have.

This is why mentorship is so important, it’s changed MY life, and why I’m so passionate about the work I do.

Because even after healing, I struggled to make just $14,000 in my first year of business, even after my successful first course launch.

I lacked business skills. I didn’t believe my work was valuable enough to charge more. I loved myself, and felt peace in my heart, but that’s not remotely enough to build a successful business.

I was used to struggling, and still didn’t fully believe in myself, but I decided I was done. My business went on to generate multiple six-figures.

It happened again, before launching a yearlong mastermind, Unleash Your Magic. I was making great money, but trapped in a business model that required constant launches and really stressed me out.

I decided I was done. And completely sold out my coaching spaces even though it terrified me, I didn’t feel ready and I’d never done something like that before.

Your decision moves mountains. When you truly decide to transcend a pattern, you will.

The key is not to do this from force, but from expansion. Force comes from a place of feeling not good enough.

Learn how to process the tension, and hold your decision as compass for what you will and won’t tolerate.

Mindset mastery and emotional release work go hand in hand, and that’s why I teach both.

Creating the business and life you’re meant for doesn’t come through pushing, proving, forcing, hustling or stressing.

It comes from a deep soul connection and trust in God.

This is the powerful work we’ll explore in Gifted, my upcoming 6-month mastermind for spiritual and creative entrepreneurs ready to clarify their calling and turn their soul’s gifts into next-level income.

This is my life’s work, and I’m so beyond excited to guide a group of soulful entrepreneurs through the principles, healing and mindset shifts that allowed me to find my purpose and build a wildly successful business around it, in the process becoming a version of myself I always hoped for, but never imagined I’d be.

You don’t need to struggle or suffer to build the business and life you’re meant for.

I learned that the hard way, and I’d love for you to learn from my mistakes, so you can skip the burnout and stress.

It’s time to become seen, paid, known, recognized, valued and appreciated for your gifts.

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Gifted is going to be one of those experiences where you look back in five years and say — that was the moment everything changed!

All the love,

Suzanne

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